Horses, Not Zebras
When looking for answers...to a medical condition...or to basically anything, look for the common rather than the uncommon. Its more likely to be eczema than the black plague. It is more likely that the bratty toddler needs a nap than that he has a food allergy. It is more likely to be car lights shining in your window than aliens invading.
You can't always get what you want...but if you try sometimes, you might find, you get what you need ~Mick Jagger
In the movie 28 Days, Sandra Bullock is an addict in rehab where they give her a sign to wear that says “Confront me if I don't ask for help!” Its true. Many people are so busy with their own struggle that they don't have the sense to say to someone else, “help me” with whatever. Sadder still is that sometimes when people do have the sense to ask others for help...others are too deep in their own struggle and can't hear the request for help. I've been guilty of needing that sign. I've been afraid or too full of pride to ask for help. And I've asked for help that has gone unheard. I've probably been on the flip side of that where I was asked for help but didn't recognize that I was being asked anything. I've been scolded and told that the answer is to keep asking and to get louder about it until I am heard. I don't think that it would help because if people are too __________ (whatever, busy, stoned, disconnected, etc.) to hear the first request, then usually they will continue to be unable to hear.
Truth begins in lies...
House believes that everybody lies. He's probably right. People lie for a multitude of reasons. And if you need to see through the lies, a good place to start is to look at what the lie was about and who it was supposed to protect.
Its not what people say, its what they do...
In the Pilot episode of House, the patient asks Wilson if House is his friend. Wilson says “House says he's my friend.” The patient says, “Its not what people say, its what they do.” To which Wilson responds, “He's my friend.” I've been in this place, where I've had to question what was real...someone's words or their actions. I think that sometimes we don't see what others do for us. So we don't know that their actions are showing us something. I think that the quote, “If your words and actions don't match then one of them is wrong.” is more true. If you wonder if you are being taken for a ride by someone, look at what they say and what they do. Are they hurting you but claiming that they do everything for you? Then run. Are they clueless about how to show the love that they feel? Then give them some guidance rather than running from someone who really may love you.
We all make mistakes...and we pay the price.
In one of the season one episodes, a woman gets African sleeping sickness by cheating on her husband with someone who is infected. When the husband finds out, he leaves the patient. The patient says to House, “He's not coming back, is he?” House replies, “No. We all make mistakes and we pay the price.” This is pretty much the same idea that The Peaceful Warrior encourages. "Every action has it's price and it's pleasure, recognizing both sides, a warrior becomes realistic and responsible for his actions." I've made lots of decisions based on that theory. If the price is too high, then the pleasure isn't worth it.
Life is hard. Try. Try to see those that need help, and help them. Try to see through the lies to the misguided intention of protecting your feelings. Try to see the good in people. But also, if someone seems to be carrying your bad luck in their right hand, then they probably don't have your best interest at heart. If someone close to you never hears your needs, never reaches out to you when you need someone near, then question their actions. And if someone is lying to you to protect themselves from your anger, then confront them. More tomorrow, thanks for reading.
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